The Twelve Steps are simple but are not easy. It helps to have a guide on the journey. A sponsor is someone who is abstinent (which means they are not eating compulsively) and who can help you learn what the Twelve Steps are all about. We say to look at your meetings for someone who has what you want (a sparkle in their eyes, a great sense of humor, compassion, full of life—you’ll know it when you see it) and ask them to sponsor you. One of the tenets of the program is that you can’t keep it if you don’t give it away. So sponsoring is an important part of living the Twelve Steps.